Stereotypes are damaging and none more so than anything gender-related. The rise of the ubersexual man has shown that we can be anything we want to be.
Traditional gender roles are a thing of the past. Nowadays, we choose who we are and don’t need a label. That’s progress! However, it doesn’t mean that any of it is easy. There is still stereotypical discrimination flying around. Laughing in the face of it takes courage. Because of this, we hear a lot of labels, but it really comes down to the way someone chooses to be and act. One of those labels is ubersexual.
What is an ubersexual?
An ubersexual is usually a man who displays the traditional features of masculinity, like strength of character, honor, and a desire to protect, alongside a more caring, perhaps even feminine side. This means an ubersexual will show the traditional masculine traits but will also have traits such as being open with communication, showing empathy, caring, and nurturing. https://4d0a3e5d1b887e57fc7e2f85e2f0df1c.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html
When you look at it that way, it’s easy to think that an ubersexual is the ideal man!
[Read: 20 characteristics of a good man that make him reliable and desirable]
Some men show themselves to be ubersexual without even putting a label on it. It’s just how they are; perhaps they’ve been raised by parents who wanted them to feel comfortable showing both traditional masculine and feminine traits, or maybe that’s just their character in general. However, some men make an effort to be more ubersexual on purpose.
There are two reasons why they may do this. Firstly, they just want to be able to understand everyone and be able to empathize with those around them. That’s a great reason. Secondly, and perhaps a little more shadily, they think that if they show this side of their character to those they’re trying to attract, it will make them more of a catch.
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Famous people who are ubersexuals and their traits
Let’s think about some of Hollywood’s leading characters and see if we can identify some ubersexual characters within them. Ryan Gosling, perhaps? How about Ryan Reynolds? George Clooney, maybe? We’re talking about the strong male leads in movies which show their feminine traits by being caring, empathetic and super-romantic at the same time. It’s no surprise that many of these characters have people swooning, plus, it tells you a lot about why some men make themselves a little more ubersexual in general. https://4d0a3e5d1b887e57fc7e2f85e2f0df1c.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html
You can look at the music world and many consider Bono from U2 to be ubersexual. As you can see, there is a whole range of examples you can look to, but the traits are generally the same.
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Ubersexual vs metrosexual and how they’re different
We’ve all heard the metrosexual title. This is a man who is into appearances. He’s all about male grooming, he likes to look clean and tidy, he always wants to look his best and he has no problems with going to a spa and having a treatment if it helps his skin or his health in general. So, how is an ubersexual different?
[Read: What makes a man a metrosexual?]
If a metrosexual is more about appearances, an ubersexual is more about personality and character. It’s entirely possible to be both metrosexual and ubersexual, but most ubersexual men still have those traditional masculine traits that may go against being metrosexual in some cases.
It’s easy to try and differentiate between an ubersexual and a so-called typical male, but there is no solid definition of what a typical male looks like, sounds like, or acts like. We only have traits to refer to. This is because every single male that roams this planet is different. You can’t put a view on what a male should be or how they should act and expect people to be okay with it. It’s restrictive and not something that we should be doing in this age!
In that case, it’s best not to compare ubersexuals with the so-called typical male. It’s probably just better to celebrate them as the sometimes complicated, but rather wonderful blend they are.
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The strongest traits of an ubersexual that stand out from other men
#1 They value the relationships in their lives. A little later, I’m going to talk about how these are independent men, but it doesn’t mean that they don’t go all out when they have someone in their life that they care about. The ubersexual values the relationships in their lives, be it a partner, friends, family, etc. They try to ensure that their partner’s needs are met and that those around them are supported.
#2 They’re not as concerned with their looks as metrosexuals. While an ubersexual man wants to look his best, he’s not quite as concerned as the metrosexual. You probably won’t see him in a spa having his nails done, but that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t consider it if he felt he wanted to give it a try. They’re a little more about character than appearance. [Read: 20 characteristics of a good man that make him desirable and reliable]
#3 They’re all about values and principles. If you look towards people like Bono or George Clooney, these are both men who are considered to be ubersexual. In addition, they both have causes they fight for which are close to their hearts. The ubersexual man has values and principles and he sticks to them.
#4 They are good communicators. If you consider that most men are considered to be poor communicators when it comes to matters of the heart or talking about problems, the ubersexual isn’t. This is probably the feminine traits coming to the fore because he is a good communicator when he needs to be. That doesn’t mean he’s going to go around talking about his feelings 24/7, but he doesn’t fear it either.
#5 They are respectful of the women in their lives. Most men can nod to this trait, but ubersexuals in particular. They cherish the women in their lives and treat them with respect and care. Of course, any good man will be able to do the same so perhaps this is splitting hairs. [Read: The 18 qualities of a good man that sets him apart from lesser men]
#6 They want their partner to be happy and fulfilled. When their partner is happy and fulfilled, they feel happy and fulfilled. They’re all about empathy and compassion and want their partner to have a great experience and to be comfortable in all aspects.
#7 They value honesty. Ubersexuals value honesty. They’re pretty straightforward in terms of what they want and how they say it. An ubersexual man isn’t likely to hide how he feels about something, whether he’s upset, happy, sad, or angry, etc. He will tell you and he will expect you to be just as upfront with him. He has no time for lies or cheating.
#8 They don’t fear commitment but don’t go looking for it either. An ubersexual isn’t desperate for attention because this is a man who believes in himself but neither is he afraid of commitment. If it comes along and it feels right, he won’t second guess it.
#9 They put themselves first when needed. The ubersexual man doesn’t have a problem prioritizing his needs because he understands the importance of self-care. You cannot be strong for someone else if you’re not strong for yourself. It’s a mantra he’s likely to live his life by. [Read: How to be chill and learn to live a happier life as a result]
#10 They’re independent and not at all needy. Despite the fact that an ubersexual man likes to have relationships and loves those in his life to be happy and fulfilled, he’s independent and knows what he wants. He’s not needy, and he’s happy to be single and focus on himself if need be. https://4d0a3e5d1b887e57fc7e2f85e2f0df1c.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html
#11 They believe in themselves. Ubersexuals are confident, driven, and focused, but they’re not arrogant. They simply believe in themselves and work hard to get to where they are.
[Read: Should men embrace male femininity and reveal their sensitive sides?]
The ubersexual man may seem complicated when you delve into it, but at the end of the day, perhaps it’s just a guy who is simply being true to his own nature.
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16 Sultry Spanish Pick-Up Lines to Snag You a Sexy Señorita
By TIFFANY GRACE REYES
Do you have your eye a sexy Spanish señorita? You might be stuck on how to flirt. In that case, these Spanish pick-up lines will help!
Let’s say that you’ve discovered a great, exciting, scandal-ridden Netflix show with a Spanish twist and all that bingeing has inspired you to learn the lingo. Or, you’ve been watching Narcos. Maybe, you’re just planning on heading to Spain for a vacation. Perhaps you want to propose to a hot Spanish mujer. In that case, you’ll need some Spanish pick-up lines to fall back on.
Whatever your reasons are, it’s always a good idea to learn a language—and Spanish is just one language that evokes romance. It’s a surefire panty-dropper, especially if you know a few lines to make her hot with anticipation.
From the way the “r” and the “l” sounds just roll off the tongue, to the way certain words and syllables are spoken as subtly as a sigh, Spanish is deemed by many as the top romantic language in the world. It even trumps French, Italian, and Portuguese.
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Flirting in another language needs some practice, especially Spanish pick-up lines!
Now, before you go straight in there and try to butcher the local language, remember that not all letters in a foreign alphabet sound as they do in English. For instance, the ñ in Spanish does not sound like a regular ‘n’. It has a gentle purr to it, and if you get it wrong, you’re going to sound pretty stupid.
Take some time to listen to excerpts on Google Translate or head over to YouTube and simply listen to people speaking Spanish. Remember, you want to have this sexy lady drooling, not laughing because you pronounced a word totally wrong.
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Top Spanish pick-up lines to practice today
Learning Spanish will be greatly helpful if you’re planning to go to Spain, Mexico, Puerto Rico, the Caribbean *also idyllic and romantic destinations*, or any of the 4 out of 7 continents where it is a first language. Yes, Spanish is that widely spoken.
You may want to add more to your word choices than gracias, te amo, por favor, buenos días, and muy bien to attract some woman who knows her papás *dads* from her papas *potatoes*. [Read: 70 Hilarious cheesy pick up lines to get a girl laughing]
So without further ado, let’s list down some of the best Spanish pick-up lines to get you inspired—and even get laid.
1. Perdone, está ocupado este asiento?
*Excuse me, is this seat taken?* This is simple, polite, and unassuming. A great choice if you just want to make friends and you don’t want to worry if some poor hombre *meaning you* is going to be punched tonight. [Read: What is flirting? The science behind this common act]
2. Nunca imaginé España podría ser esta hermosa
*I never imagined Spain could be this beautiful!* You can actually score a date, or at least a nice conversation, by starting with this line.
You can compliment her country *or any other Spanish-speaking country for that matter*, and it’s like you’re complimenting her too.
3. ¿Vienes acquí menudo?
*Do you come here often?* Yes, it’s cheesy, even as Spanish pick-up lines go. Again, a subtle and unassuming question that won’t make her quickly put her guard up and put you off.
Whatever her answer is, you can easily find a good follow-up question, and therefore, get the conversation going. [Read: 20 really bad pickup lines you’d be crazy to use in real life]
4. Esta es mi primera vez aquí. ¿Me puede recomendar un buen restaurante que debería probar?
*This is my first time here. Can you recommend a good restaurant I could try?* This is more effective if you come off as a little confused and tourist-y.
Chances are, any girl you approach would be happy to help you. If you’re lucky, you can even invite her to join you.
5. Si tus ojos fueran el ciele y tu boca el mar, me gustaría ser el horizonte para poderte besar.
*If your eyes were the sky and your mouth were the sea, I’d like to be the horizon to be able to kiss you.* While this may sound cheesy, if not pretentious in English, it sounds so romantic in Spanish.
So, don’t worry—go ahead and try it. What are you going to lose? [Read: The smoothest smooth pick-up lines & how to impress girls with them]
6. Disculpe, ¿me pueden ayudar con…?
*Excuse me, can you help me with…?* This is another great conversation starter, especially if you’re in a new place, just stepped into a club or restaurant, or just walking around somewhere and you’ve spotted a girl you’d like to get to know.
Just remember to pretend that you actually needed help with something though. [Read: The clueless guy’s and girl’s guide to using pickup lines]
7. ¡Hola! ¿Sabe usted dónde es _?
*Hi! Do you know where ___ is?* This is also another good and neutral conversation starter that you, as a tourist or newbie in a place, can definitely use to your advantage.
You can pretend to be confused, and then you will gain another opportunity to ask her to help you get to that place. Props if you get to ask her to your hotel and she comes in there with you.
8. Es tu nombre? ¿Puedo llamarte mío?
*What’s your name? Can I call you mine?* This is a bit forward, but done right, it should work. Just go to a bar, start some small talk with a woman you like, buy her a few drinks, and try this line out.
9. ¿Te gustaría bailar?
*Would you like to dance?* Say this if you really do have the moves. From here, you can talk about music, dancing, her looking fit, or the venue.
If you have enough shuffle in your feet, you might even shuffle her out of the club and into your hotel. [Read: The best flirting moves you can learn from famous movies]
10. ¿Puedo interés en un vaso de…?
*Can I interest you in a glass of …?* You choose the drink that fits the occasion and a place. If it’s some hoity-toity cocktail, offer her a fine wine, if in a club, some good cocktail, or what have you.
The secret is using this line like it’s not a Spanish pick-up line. Be sincere, courteous, and subtly display your skills as a connoisseur without being too overbearing. [Read: How to impress a girl – 15 atypical secrets you need to know]
11. ¿Cómo se siente al ser la más bella muchacha en esta sala?
*What does it feel like to be the most beautiful girl in this room?* This can actually stop her in her tracks, especially if she’s answering some basic question you asked her earlier. Make sure to intently listen and look deeply at her, then lean forward, and get on with this line.
12. Esta es una canción excelente. ¿Quieres bailar conmigo?
*This is a great song. Would you like to dance?* This is especially effective if you’re in a crowd or out with a group of friends and you want to get some one-on-one time with her. This will allow you to also physically get closer as you talk to her and get to know her better. [Read: Creative Tinder lines to snag you a date on the first try]
13. ¿Hace calor aqui, o eres tù?
*Is it hot in here or is it just you?* This is best done when there really isn’t much good ventilation in the room and you want to compliment her at the same time. It’s nice to be realistic so you’ll come off as more sincere.
14. Crees en amor a primera vista, o debo pasar por delante otra vez?
*Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by you again?* While this is quite a well-used pick-up line, there’s a more effective way of saying this.
Be funny and charming, instead of too serious, which may come off as freaky. This is one of the funniest Spanish pick-up lines you can use if you smile wide while saying this. [Read: How to talk to girls and leave them swooning]
15. Tienes una sonrisa muy bonita
*You have a beautiful smile.* Before you say this, be prepared to flash your own whites, and be genuine and charming. Greet her and hang around for a little while, or go around the room for a bit before circling back to her and tell her this.
16. Wow, me gusta mucho lo que llevas puesto. ¿Que es eso?
*Wow, I really like what you’re wearing. What is that?* Women put in great effort to look great from head to toe. Therefore, a small compliment will not go unnoticed.
This will not only boost her confidence, but also earn you access to more conversation. Just remember to be really attentive when she tells you her shoes are Louboutin and her dress is Miu Miu.
[Read: How to make a girl laugh, smile and like you instantly]
From the simple, inconspicuous questions to the more forward-wooing words, Spanish pick-up lines are great for any occasion – even if you just want to make new friends in a foreign land!